In Al-Anon 27 years since 3/5/1990, Palmer says it is the disease of alcoholism that he suffers from not the actions of the alcoholic.
"I came primed and ready when I met 'her'."
His mother and father were physicist on the atomic bomb project.
He was not supposed to be born because his father was in a serious radiation accident several years before Palmer's birth.
Palmer was a hippie in Oregon and made it through two years of college until 'she' went down to Haight-Ashbury but he was lonesome, apart from, separate.
"I had this cellophane wall that I couldn't reach out and you couldn't reach in."
He got so restless when his mother was in the hospital dying of cancer that he left her there and went to Virginia Beach. He even missed the funeral.
He did not have the tools to deal with the guilt until he came into Al-Anon.
"I have to remember for me, that I am my own qualifier for Al-Anon.
I marry alcoholic women because I qualify for Al-Anon.
I don't qualify for Al-Anon because I marry alcoholic women."
